Relationship Problems

RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
In my experience of psychic readings I would say that 90 percent of all readings is about troublesome relationships, breakups etc.
When two people are attracted to one another and they hit it off in all areas, as they get to know each other then irritations appear. Some are surmountable with a bit of communication and some are not. I have found through my experience that a woman pushing for commitment is one of the biggest passion killers known.Women seem to be in more of a rush than men and certainly more insecure. OK one of you calls it a day and wants time and space. If youve been dumped!……………
WHAT TO DO
The best way to get your lover back is to do NOTHING. No communication,No letters texts or otherwise and certainly no excuses to make contact like “I have left a CD behind or a lighter or something so petty it is an obvious excuse for contact again. When a breakup has happened it means no contact and time to mull things over and give each other peace to think things through. I cannot think of a quicker way to push your lover away than to come over as needy, cant survive without them etc. We look for in our partners, strength, pride and confidence and not a bag of emotions that bleed. Lose your pride and you have lost everything, including your partner. Be seen to be getting on with your life even though your heart is breaking inside. You immediately become more desirable and attractive once again.
The bottom line is if your lover has not been back in touch again, after say a month or two then it is truly over for now. If they are not trying to contact you to work things out after that time, then they are not thinking about you.That is the reality of the situation, so why boost their ego by chasing after them.
The real test of Love is silence and No Contact then see who breaks down first but if you are female, dont let it be you. Men are better at hiding their emotions but suffer too. If you are meant to be together then let fate find a way forward ie bumping into each other etc.
If you feel your heart is breaking in two then pray to The Angels for strength and ask them to help with your current distress and relationship issues. They will not interfere in your life, unless you invite them in by prayer or thought. If the Angels cannot repair the damage then ask them to give you the strength to move on.

FACT : Only 5% of married men/women, actually leave their partners and it is usually boredom that makes them stray in the first place, too many bills to pay and over commitment, so by having a fling….. this is like reading a good novel, as a temporary escape route.”Yes there a bond with you bla bla bla.” “My wife and i dont sleep together” “Never known anything like sex is with you ” If you find yourself in this situation…Protect your heart.

Will Your Love Last

Will your love last
Will your love last

We have all been experienced meeting someone new and the feeling of intense attraction, but do not let your new love affair, be built on sand. The Love and Commitment words are dangerous, if mentioned too early on, in any relationship.

Give yourself a chance to test each other out and explore each others pasts and current habits and remove the rose tinted glasses and see each other, warts and all.

As a psychic reader I hear so many times how “he/she is my soul mate and the connection and attraction is so strong that we must be fated to be together.”

Tread carefully!, are the words that spring to mind and when the newness wears off, we are left with a couple who have to split up and take a break from each other, because the intensity was too stifling and too much to cope with. Scary stuff when we feel everything is moving at great speed and you have to ask yourself do I really want to be tied to this person or share that house we agreed on. What have I agreed to?

There is of course the huge matter of sexual intercourse in the early days, leaving both people feeling like they owe each other something, if not a second date. Women are the worst offenders for pushing for commitment. If a couple truly love each other then equally they should want to spend more time together and not be apart, instead of one making excuses for not turning up and the other nagging away at being let down so often. When two people love each other truly, then more commitment will be the most natural, next step, in the world, to both parties and not just one.

Push for more, too quickly and you push the other away from you. Not to mention your self respect going out the window, and you looking like a needy demanding human being.

In all my years of psychic readings in relationships can I advise you NOT to mention the L or C words too soon and the old saying “treat em mean to keep em keen” seems to have the desired effect in the respect department. It is nice to be nice too, but also good to say no! I cant make it once in a while.

Our Spirit Pets

OUR SPIRIT PETS

As much as I am spiritualist medium I am aware of the loss of the physical presence of my beautiful pets, and the huge void they leave in our lives. They are spirit pets now unfortunately. No one can wish there pet would go to spirit. It is surely something that we all dread and would rather not think about. The transition of our earthly pets to become spirit pets. Speak to your animal/s every day. Don’t be shy. How would you like to visit a loved one and be completely ignored because that person is not aware of your presence. Trouble is on earth we have so many other matters to deal with in the course of a day. We cannot always marry a spiritual visit with our mood frame at the time. If you truly loved your animal, bird, reptile, you will feel they are very much part of your heart and mind and that’s how spirit works. The fact that my cat had to jump down from a height to land next to me tells me that certainly the spirit realms start 3 foot above our ground. I wont believe what others have written, we all need proof from spirit then so do I need proof by experience. Don’t believe everything these authors, mediums write about spirit. That is only there thoughts on the subject. Settle for nothing less than proof otherwise it is second or third hand knowledge that you are reading about.

No one really knows and neither are we meant to have all the answers about the great Spirit Lands until we wake up there ourselves one day. Seeing is believing, not reading someone else thoughts on the subject.

Real and Undisputable proof that our pets return from spirit.

BILLY THE CAT

My cat Billy would always play inside plastic carrier bags when he was an earth cat. When he passed over to Spirit with Cancer a few days went by of extreme grief on my part until one day I heard a plastic bag rustling in the kitchen. I thought it was my partner who was out shopping but thought it strange I didn’t hear him come in the front door. I went to investigate and there was a plastic carrier bag moving on its own for what seemed like a good 5 minutes. It was obvious there was a bulk inside it but I couldn’t see anything. Billy’s favourite play time was climbing inside carrier bags and rolling around in them. This was Billy coming back to prove that he had survived the physical passing to spirit and had returned to let me know that he was okay and that life just carried on as normal. He was still very much around in the house and was letting me know.

When the veil of grief clouds our sight to spirit it is difficult to see or sense anything. I could not deny what I had witnessed and from that moment on I knew that Billy was alive and in his spirit body and had come home to continue his life. I moved on and pulled myself together after that and felt happiness and peace come back into my life. How spirit look after us but sometimes we are too grief stricken to sense anything.

Lovers Cheating

Lovers Cheating

A Drunken fumble and what to do about it?

Have a good cry,then go for a long walk, ring a trusted friend. Its a terrible blow to your heart but you will calm down and start to recover. You have to box clever here and if you still love your man, woman, and this is a first time, then give him/her the benefit of the doubt. If its the second time then for goodness sake clear the rotten energy that is around you and move on.

To err is Human and to forgive is sublime. To forgive more than once is giving the other person permission to do it again and get away with it. Lovers cheating on one another is not real love, it is purely abuse.

We all know what it feels like to be cheated on by a Lover. Relationships and Love, all hopes, trust and respect, flown out of the window. Give it another go??, Where do you go from here…Well you dont just sit down and take it, thats for sure. To err is human but to forgive is sublime but once and only once and I cannot reiterate on that point enough, as a counsellor and a psychic reader to many people.
If its the first time then you have to soul search and think why it happened but for goodness sake do not blame yourself.An embarrassed silence usually follows along with the refusal to discuss the matter. A break and time and space is required and a chance for you to heal.
The guidance is here ALLOW YOURSELF A CHANCE TO RECOVER FROM THE SHOCK AND TO HEAL, BEFORE, you enter into negotiations.
Anything built on sand will quickly fall flat on itself so if your other half has had a drunken fumble or a “you know what” in the dark, then sometimes you do have to forgive their stupidity.

God is not to Blame

God Is Not To Blame

We have all loved and lost someone, The most natural event in our lives is to experience devastating loss. How cruel nature can be too, especially when some one is taken home to spirit, prematurely through illness. Children and animals with barely a chance on the earth plane. Where is God and why does he let this happen we all ask our selves. Is he there at all ?

I can report as a Psychic Medium that all illness leaves the deceased person, on waking in spirit and a new and healthy body replaces the old one. I do believe that a period of healing is required in the spirit realms when a person has experienced a traumatic death. The Angels help that person to realise, why they have woken up in spirit and to settle down to there new life. Our stay on the earth plane is very temporary and most of our lives are spent as spirit people. A lot of deaths too are man made through machinery, diet, chemicals etc etc so we cannot blame God for decisions made by man on earth.

I often wonder about diet. If we stuck to what was eaten and mentioned in the Bible would our health improve, also in the Wars when Britains inhabitants were at there healthiest, despite the rationing etc etc. It gives me a lot of food for thought. We always want someone to blame but we are here on earth to learn so God in his wisdom can be totally helpless at times.

If someone chooses to end there life or someone steps in front of a car, does God have to supply an Angel to save the day for each person. If that was the case and he supplied on demand then surely there would be no death, no eternal life, no immortality..

How would this world turn around.

Grief can be the veil that blocks our sense of our spirit loved ones around us. It is very difficult to see hear or smell anything when our hearts are broken. It does however take a great deal of energy for a loved one to come in close, this could be in the form of a perfume or aftershave or indeed a medication that was used, but a distinct reminder of who it is coming in close to you. A sudden memory that was almost forgotten about springs to mind!! well that is your loved one communicating with you. You do not get a memory from the past for no reason. You may be more aware than you think.

If I can help anyone who is recently bereaved to come to terms with there loss then please contact me lily@psychic-telephone.co.uk at no cost to yourself. It is my duty to help you in anyway I can. I can communicate with you by email but not telephone.

Deceased Pets

deceased pets
Deceased pets live on

What happens to our deceased pets, when they are buried or cremated. They pass to spirit and into there astral body and carry on with the next part of there lives as we all will. We will all be reunited in the Spirit realms.
Have you any spiritual experiences to do with your beloved deceased pets, returning from the spirit world.

Please send your story in and it could be published to help other bereaved pet owners.
When our beloved pets pass over to the spirit world we feel the devastating loss as badly as losing a member of our family, human or animal the love and loss to the owner and family is no less. A Deceased pet is no more dead than you or I are.
I have several experiences of my pets returning from the spirit world to visit me and I wonder how much time they actually spend with us once they are in there astral bodies as we all will be one day.
I would like to build up a collection of true experiences about our beloved animals coming home, because this in turn will help other bereaved owners to cope and to know that they have only lost there pets for a short time.

Cat Deaths on the Roads

Make It Illegal to cause a Cats Deaths on the Road, In The UK!

A petition for signatures about cat deaths on the roads, has just been started and is ongoing and I would appreciate your support. This petition will be going to the Scottish Governement, as others are petitioning for England and Wales. Please click on the link below to read more. If you would like your pet included on this page then send me your photo and details. Your help would be so much appreciated to stamp out hit and run drivers of cats and small furries.

PLEASE SIGN MY PETITION

Tiko
Tiko killed on the road

In Loving Memory

of

Tiko Allison 18+ Years

Hit by a car near 1 Deas Road, Inverkeithing around 11.30pm on Friday 19th July 2013

Tiko suffered a broken back and two broken legs and the driver never stopped. He was left to suffer until his owner found him. A reward is offered to anyone with information. He was paralysed and later put to sleep. Cats deaths, on the roads should be made accountable for.

We are a nation of cat lovers but that cant be said for any motorist who hits an animal knowingly and just drives off. I wish they were made to see the pain and trauma they have left that animal in. Not to mention the grief felt by the family.
Time to change the laws so that anyone who causes a cats death on the roads, has to report it to the Police. Yes we know the police are busy but we pay our taxes and some of us never bother them in a lifetime.
I personally couldn’t hit any animal or bird without stopping to see firstly that it was dead. If that animal is still alive, it should be taken to the nearest vets. There is no excuse for causing a cat death anywhere and there are some evil sub human people out there.
There is no true animal lover that would not stop. It is so cruel and selfish and I hope the perpetrators suffer in other ways. Karma

Stray Cats

STRAY CATS

Can we think of ways we can help the stray cats in Britain, fundrasing, donating to animal charities, and putting out meals at nights for our 2 million abandoned and stray cats.
Any ideas you may have will be helpful im sure so please contribute your ideas through the contact form. Any stories or titbits sad or happy I will pleased to hear from you.
People worry about encouraging a stray cat by feeding and offering shelter but you can even a make a home for them outside, because the chances are they have turned feral and wouldn’t thank being pulled indoors.
In my experience of Cat and animal rescue charities, they do there utmost to help people who care enough about those poor animals, to feed and offer compassion to them. A very unselfish act on your behalf. We also worry about disease spreading to our domesticated cats which has happened to me in the past, but honestly who could turn there hearing off to a poor hungry cat on a stormy wet night. Stray cats usually come out at 5pm and have body clocks like our watches and clocks. Please spare a titbit for those unfortunate stray cats and pick up the phone to one of your local charities who will be pleased to help to rescue a poor moggy.

With approximately 2 Million Stray Cats out there in the UK alone, I wonder how we can call ourselves Animal Lovers. An Animal Lover isnt someone who just indulges in a pet for their own personal pleasure. An Animal Lover is someone who actively does something about the plight of abandoned and frightened animals. How can we sleep in our warm beds at night. I know I cannot.
As the weather gets colder, why not save up all your food waste in an airtight container in the fridge and put it out each night for the stray cats. You are not encouraging strays because they are out there hiding in daylight and coming out when it is dark and they feel safe. A bit like rats, we may not see them in daylight but believe me there are probably 50 rats in the foundations or pipework of your home as it is. A stray abandoned cat is very frightened and with 2 million of them in the UK there will be a stray starving cat near you.
An abandoned cat may well have lost its human parents due to death, and veterinary fees being what they are, a lot of cats are put out side under the miss apprehension that they can take care of themselves.
Domestic cats have been with us for too long and need warmth love and food.

Please donate to any shelter,veterinary surgeon blankets,food and money..it all helps but the shelters are all full up to turning animals away. The next step is euthanising those poor pets. How would we like to wake up with no Mum and no explanation,because shes maybe passed away.

It is also a good idea if you are over 50 to make your plans for your animals known to your family and friends so that there is no misunderstanding. Keeping an animal alive isnt always a kindness because some cats will not settle into any old home thats offered, especially one with young children when they are used to peace and quiet so id be very wary about leaving my cats to chance.

How to keep your lover

RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
In my experience of psychic readings I would say that 90 percent of all readings is about troublesome relationships, breakups etc.
Hence how to keep your lover is about when two people are attracted to one another and they hit it off in all areas, as they get to know each other then irritations appear. Some are surmountable with a bit of communication and some are not. I have found through my experience that a woman pushing for commitment is one of the biggest passion killers known.Women seem to be in more of a rush than men and certainly more insecure. OK one of you calls it a day and wants time and space. If you’ve been dumped!……………

WHAT TO DO
The best way to get your lover back is to do NOTHING. No communication,No letters texts or otherwise and certainly no excuses to make contact like “I have left a CD behind or a lighter or something so petty it is an obvious excuse for contact again. When a breakup has happened it means no contact and time to mull things over and give each other peace to think things through. I cannot think of a quicker way to push your lover away than to come over as needy, cant survive without them etc. We look for in our partners, strength, pride and confidence and not a bag of emotions that bleed. Lose your pride and you have lost everything, including your partner. Be seen to be getting on with your life even though your heart is breaking inside. You immediately become more desirable and attractive once again.
The bottom line is if your lover has not been back in touch again, after say a month or two then it is truly over for now. If they are not trying to contact you to work things out after that time, then they are not thinking about you.That is the reality of the situation, so why boost their ego by chasing after them.
The real test of Love is silence and No Contact then see who breaks down first but if you are female, dont let it be you. Men are better at hiding their emotions but suffer too. If you are meant to be together then let fate find a way forward ie bumping into each other etc.
If you feel your heart is breaking in two then pray to The Angels for strength and ask them to help with your current distress and relationship issues. They will not interfere in your life, unless you invite them in by prayer or thought. If the Angels cannot repair the damage then ask them to give you the strength to move on.

FACT : Only 5% of married men/women, actually leave their partners and it is usually boredom that makes them stray in the first place, too many bills to pay and over commitment, so by having a fling….. this is like reading a good novel, as a temporary escape route.”Yes theres a bond with you bla bla bla.” “My wife and i dont sleep together” “Never known anything like sex is with you ” If you find yourself in this situation…Protect your heart.
Mess with a married person and it will be you, who is the predatory husband or wife eater, not to mention marriage breaker so don’t fall into someones boredom trap.Believe me as a seasoned relationship reader Ive heard it all and time after time the marriage will not be broken apart by you. You are the real victim here and it is so sad. Again Protect your poor heart.

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It is hearbreaking and confusing when a couple split up or fall out and some of the most commonly asked questions I receive through my psychic readings are…will we make up…is there any hope….have we a future…..how does he/she feel…and so on.
Sometimes there is no closure and we are left hurt angry and very confused.
If it is you that has been dumped or told the relationship is over, then give yourself some time to catch your breath and reflect and try to come to terms with what has happened and why.
Were there signs that you ignored or chose to ignore? No matter what has happened to cause the break up, do not chase after your partner. It boosts there ego and makes you look small. You are far more attractive to hold your own and show strength, dignity and pride. Instantly it makes you more attractive. Let the dust settle for a few weeks and if there is any hope of reconcilliation, you will both find a way to recommunicate once again. There is no spell that will make a partner want you again. Just be yourself and hope that your other half will start to remember the good points about you and your relationship. It is amazing how a couple some times have to go at a distance to come back closer together again. Knowing and understanding each other just that bit more.
It is sad that people feel because they have been together for years that they belong together and that there is a special bond. Sometimes that bond can be “being stuck and in a rut”, being out of love but still have love for each other, not wanting to hurt the other by leaving, so you stay put ” those reasons arent a special bond,but more like a fear of the future and going it alone.”
One of the most over used statements I hear is soulmate and twin flame connection. We felt as if we’d known each other for years yet only just met. The next thing I hear one has gone at a distance because it was all too much, too quickly, so be realistic when you fathom out what went wrong. What people dont realise is, that those self same attractions can be the things that drive us apart in the end.
The commitment issue:
If a couple love/need? each other so much that they cant stand to be apart they will find a way to be together without one partner pushing for commitment and the other not being so interested, then theres a fall out because the person who is ready to commit feels there partner cant love them because the poor man/woman, isnt ready!. Women are terrible for this. Pushing and showing insecurity.
In the beginning if the person you have just met isnt ringing and texting you then they really arent thinking about you but when a relationship is on its last legs you wouldnt expect communication. Give it a month before you make any decisions about moving on and certainly do not contact the dumper. Do a fair bit of cursing and throw an ornament or too but no contact and if there is still no contact after that month, then I think you can say its over. Couples can and do make up after months of being apart but usually to find the same old flaws appear, quite soon into the fresh start.There is a sea of potential partners out there and if you feel your relationship has had more downs than ups then maybe you have had a lucky escape but remember
“You have to kiss a few frogs to kiss a prince/princess”.
Healing.. Ask the Angels for help every day and night. They wont interfere unless you invite them into your life.
The Basic signs are Loss of Interest in each other
Poor communication
Avoiding making plans for the future
Sex predictable and boring
Picking fights to find an escape route
Not missing each other any more,
Avoiding spending time together,
Fantasising about other people,
One cheating on the other.

The ultimate insult in any relationship.The end is near if you can answer YES to 2 of those statements.
Work needs to be done by both to save or selvage what is left of the relationship,but if only one is interested, there is no point in wasting any more energy on something that is going nowhere except the scrap heap.

Before an affair takes place be firm, fair and honest. If already you are sensing distance then its time to look at when he started to go off you. Some men are never satisfied and must prove themselves by always flirting but that’s just insecurity on their part.

Are you a nagger, a whinger or a moaner, If yes! you stand a very good chance of losing there interest, and your partner heading away from you, for peace. Some men don’t want to spend time with there other halves though thinking that handing over the housekeeping is there job done. If your partner is only interested in you in the bedroom department then time to move on. Don’t be a waitress, cook and housekeeper. Its not what your parents wanted for you Im sure. Some men are trapped in their mothers upbringing and do nothing around the house etc etc. Well this is the 21st century and if they want meals on the table etc etc when are they treating you to a nice meal out instead of cooking.

Don’t make a rod for your own back by just doing everything for your man to please him and show what a great wife you would make. Be fair and honest but stand up for yourself and what you believe in. Most of us ladies do but there are the minority that just ask to be walked over.

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Sometimes it is easier for you or a couple to come on to my website for counselling, due to commitments, not wanting to share personal details, face to face, with a complete stranger. I do not use my psychic gifts while counselling but if I get a strong hint of what is wrong or who is wrong, I will then use my intuition to tell you what your next best step is. Only Tried and proven methods of helping a relationship to get back on to a happier pathway, will be used, through my training as a counsellor and comes before any other method. A booking with me will cost £25 per person. For singles I can help you quickly, hopefully without another appointment. For couples I need both sides of the story so your appointments will not go on and on costing you a small fortune. I am here to help you. It is what I trained and studied for.

There is no problem that cannot be worked on, to a satisfactory conclusion, even if it means breaking away from the other person for a while. A sexual problem one is experiencing can be discussed with me too. No stone will be left unturned and I am not easily shocked, so honesty! is a key requisite from you. You can book an appointment with me through this website or tel 01333 313351 or email lily@psychic-telephone.co.uk. Your partner or husband/wife could then be given another day and time to open their heart up too, if they want to, by phone or email, but together we can make life a lot better and happier. Roll on Happy Endings or Inevitable Ones.

World War 1 Memorial

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World War 1 Memorial. I can imagine a child lying about there age, to go on a great adventure, namely to war. Like a great camping trip.. unbeknown to them. It breaks our hearts as parents to think it would be too late to turn back when faced with the cold brutality of war but on a brighter note, at least all the fallen are enjoying the Spirit Realms in there eternal life.

I think we have all shed tears every November and now the centenary of “The Great War” but we cannot keep crying.

This memorial will go on for the four years, the duration of the war and we cannot cry for all that time. Those souls have moved on and we will join them one day too. I know they are happy and not crying for us. We have to be strong too and cope with our own lives. We will never forget the sacrifices that were made and it is so humbling to see whole countries pay there respects. So typically British to have a total blackout on the 4th. August 2014. I don’t know about you but it proved to me that despite all the adversity and struggling and poverty going on in Britain that we did pull together as a nation just as we did in the wars. It gave me back my faith in human nature