Reflections of dealing with Grief and Depression

Reflections of dealing with grief and depression as time marches on.

Here we are 4 months along the road, and still dealing with grief and depression. It may as well of happened yesterday.  When will it feel easier to cope with the physical loss?   We must learn to live with what is, and be strong for other loved ones too.  There is help out there. Through your faith and church or through the organisations I mentioned in Part 1.  If you do not believe in any religion why not give the Spiritualist Church a go. See what you think about your experience after you have been.  There is also free physical healing given there, which covers mental healing too.  Mental health issues should be dealt with by your GP.  Suicidal thoughts! well you need a huge cuddle, and a cuppa. Maybe a trip to your doctor.  Do not be ashamed of your feelings because it is a natural part of bereavement.

A Rose to Brighten Your Day

Suicidal Thoughts

Dealing with grief and depression, takes a strong focus but most of all faith and courage.  To bring more grief to our families.  Especially, when peoples lives are taken from them, through illness and accident.  God is not to blame.  It is not Gods wish for people to die horrible deaths.

I am so lucky and blessed to have my faith and gift of medium ship. Thanking god every day for my experiences with spirit, but I too must experience the physical loss.  Chatting away to my son Kevin all day and night because I know I am communicating with him.

Waking up in Spirit

Imagine waking up in spirit and not wanting to be there but wanting home with ones family. How frustrating must that be?.  I do not believe we wake up in spirit and everything is hunky dory.  When we pass through the veil we can need healing too. Depending on the circumstances in which we passed over.  Was there a long illness or a sudden death.  We will never be prepared that is for certain. Do our passed loved ones not grieve for us? Yes they do.

Light a Candle and Pray

I suggest to all my sisters and brothers out there dealing with grief and depression, to light a candle next to your loved ones photo. If that doesn’t help you, then remember that every thought and memory we have of our loved ones, they will know about. They can see us but we cannot always see them.  Spirit loved ones will do there utmost to attract our attention. From Electrical disruptions to feathers and animal behaviour changes.  The dog or cat watching a certain chair.  Animals are very psychic and intuitive and are usually the first sign that you have a loved one with you.

Light a Candle and Pray
Kevin's Grave Stone
Kevin’s Grave Stone

Please contact me if you are finding your bereavement hard to cope with and I will do my best to help you

For Part.1 of Dealing with Grief and Depression.

Dealing with Grief and Depression

Dealing with Grief and Depression

Dealing with Grief and Depression.

Part 1

Recently I lost my son Kevin to Pneumonia.  He was only 40 when he passed to spirit and if it had not been for my great faith in life after the physical death and the spirit realms and how we all go home there, I would never have come through the great void he has left behind.  He passed through the veil 15 months ago and it has taken me until now to talk about my loss with others.

We have to grieve the physical loss first, no matter what our beliefs tell us. Nurse our broken hearts and try and  make some sense of what has happened. My daily prayers help me and give me strength.  The prayers help me because I know Kevin will hear every word or thought I send to him.

We must think of how our loved one must feel, having lost there life.  Now whether they were young or old, suffered illness or were suddenly taken from us “How do they feel? leaving there loved ones on the earth plane.  They grieve too, for us, someone has to be strong and say well “do we sail or sink into the bottomless pit of depression.”

Dealing with Grief and Depression In the early days is hard going.  I contemplated suicide to be with my son but what stopped me was! I thought how dare you end your life voluntarily when Kevin had his life snatched from him, through illness.  Needless to say I am still here.  Imagine the shame on your family, not to mention those loved ones who have passed through the veil before you, to do a cowardly thing like that.  We will all be united in the spirit realms. Kevin’s passing means he can teach his family when we all go over to the spirit realms. This feeling of loss is only temporary until I can see him properly and do what we used to do together.

As a spiritualist medium Kevin was well aware of my work and the communication  is fantastic between us.  I have 3 well tried and tested mediums who conduct my readings. I take turn about every 4 weeks and it is almost like Kevin is stood right next to me.  He can tell the medium what I am wearing and what I have been doing that week, so it is the physical loss we have to cope with.

Go to your local Spiritualist Church or hire a well established medium.  I can recommend spiritualist and psychic mediums to you if you email me at and save you a lengthy search, not to mention monies.

If you really cannot cope then how about joining a group online ie

Visit your GP to discuss what can be done to help you numb the pain a bit. Most GP’s direct us to Cruse so worth having a look and reading what others are going through.  This alone can be a great comfort knowing that others are going through what you are.

For Part.2 of Dealing with Grief and Depression.

Did Jesus Die on the Cross for Us

Did Jesus die on the cross for us

The Bible is full of rubbish I feel, with stories handed down and added to over the centuries. Did Jesus Die on the Cross for Us?  How can we tell what is real and what is false in that Bible? There are some beautiful teachings and stories in the bible and the hell’ us sinners will face when we pass over is really quite frightening.  Some of the writings by negative angry people, bible thumping about something they believe in.  Of course,  I could have it all wrong too.

My first huge disagreement is that Jesus died on the cross to save us all.  What nonsense.  Do you think God would want his son killed so cruelly when he had just started his preaching and spreading the word of God?  Where is the love? Jesus did not die to save us all.

Jesus was cruelly crucified on the cross by man, not God.  By a man’s greed for power and ego.  We all blame God when there is a disaster which incidentally is nearly always caused by man.  Human error in every occupation across the board and man made machinery, cars, and trains to name a few.  Illness and fatalities caused by bad diet and lifestyle.

If we all lived on fish and loaves of bread and vegetables from the land, I wonder if the disease numbers would fall.

Yes, there have been medical breakthroughs that can save lives from the womb to the grave. Mother nature has a lot to answer for too, but again she gets blamed for every disaster.  Between Mother Nature and poor God upstairs, they are the whipping boys.

I do believe that we get the real answers revealed slowly when we pass through to the spirit realms.  In the mean time, our children are being taught that Jesus died to save us all.  It doesn’t make sense to me.

Thank you so much for reading my post.  Please leave any comments because this is a subject I would be interested in hearing other peoples views on.[sgmb id=”

Unwanted Spirit Visitors in your home

Psychic Readings
Joan Lily Porter
Psychic Readings

As a spiritualist medium,  it comes as no surprise when people approach me to ask why they are having problems in their home or work place.

If ever you feel uneasy or could swear that someone unseen was in your company, this is what to do.  Pray to the higher power, God, Jesus, Mary,  whoever your saviour is and ask for protection against unwanted guests.  Unwanted Spirit Visitors in your home can be very distressing but if you can find the courage how about trying to talk aloud and say “I don’t know who you are but I do not want you here, please go to the light to be with your own loved ones.” Keep saying your prayer, it need not be anything from any book either.  Just say what you want to say to above.

The gentle approach is always best.  We may feel very angry that someone is pestering us but whoever it is has lost their way and means you no harm.  Could be they lived in your home many years before you were even born.  To that spirit person, this home of yours could be the only place they can identify with.

The most usual time to have unwanted spirit visitors in your home is when there has been a passing to spirit.  If the visitor is indeed someone who knows you?  maybe you are going through a difficult time and they have come in to let you know that you are not on your own.

The truth is we are never on our own.  Unseen spirit people carry on with their lives just as they did when they were here on the earth plane.  Yes, it is a different realm in which they exist but they are all powerful in knowing and sensing.  Remember the love bond between an earth person and a spirit person never dies. Only strengthens.

I grin when people say well let the deceased person rest in peace!  What a joke considering they are more active than you or I are.

If you are suffering from a bereavement then keep praying and visualising your loved one.  They are only a thought away and will hear every word thought and deed you send to them.

By feather, fang, tooth or claw, we all go to the spirit realms.  Animals,[sgmb id=”1″] birds and humans alike.  Reunions are going on by the hundreds every minute of our day and your day will come too when you are reunited with your loved one.  The secret is to get on with your life here on earth.  Try and do a good deed a day to help someone else.  Be it a smile or a kind word.  To a lonely person, a kind word or a nod can mean an awful lot.  The stray cat in the street, or the hungry bird, all these things help you to be a truly better person and God will be pleased with you.

I hope this information is useful to someone today.

Happy Praying


Joan Lily Porter

Ask the Angels for help


Ask the Angels for help

When we are feeling confused and feel we have no one to share our problems with.  Ask the Angels for help.  Invite them into your life.  They will not just come in and take over your problems uninvited.  Yes we have guardian angels around us all the time but they cannot cover every eventuality in our lives.

At one time in my life I would never charge for a psychic reading because I felt it was a gift from god after all.  After working and giving free psychic readings at charity events for years, I have just stopped doing this.  Sometimes I ask the angels for help by asking for them to send me in some more psychic work.

Life leaves us wondering, what we get given free from anyone.  I only give free readings to raise funds for charities I support personally like PDSA and Cats Protection.

As for not charging for psychic readings, when giving those readings is your vocation in life, it is also our bread and butter.  In the old school of the “Spiritualist movement” you would never dream of charging fee for a psychic reading but now even that school of thought has expired because churches have to be paid for,  mortgages and rent, heating and lighting. Travelling expenses for the working medium too.

Ask the Angels for Help
Ask the Angels for help

Ask for help in the love and work areas, ask for money to help pay the bills, god will find a way, but only if we ask.

Asking someone to send out positive thoughts is not always the answer.  Feeling very low, it can be difficult to feel positive about anything.  A prayer to the angels above will firstly make you feel as if you are doing something about your circumstances and just watch for changes for the better starting to happen.