RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS In my experience of psychic readings I would say that 90 percent of all readings is about troublesome relationships, breakups etc. When two people are attracted to one another and they hit it off in all areas, as they get to know each other then irritations appear. Some are surmountable with a bit of communication and some are not. I have found through my experience that a woman pushing for commitment is one of the biggest passion killers known.Women seem to be in more of a rush than men and certainly more insecure. OK one of you calls it a day and wants time and space. If youve been dumped!…………… WHAT TO DO The best way to get your lover back is to do NOTHING. No communication,No letters texts or otherwise and certainly no excuses to make contact like “I have left a CD behind or a lighter or something so petty it is an obvious excuse for contact again. When a breakup has happened it means no contact and time to mull things over and give each other peace to think things through. I cannot think of a quicker way to push your lover away than to come over as needy, cant survive without them etc. We look for in our partners, strength, pride and confidence and not a bag of emotions that bleed. Lose your pride and you have lost everything, including your partner. Be seen to be getting on with your life even though your heart is breaking inside. You immediately become more desirable and attractive once again. The bottom line is if your lover has not been back in touch again, after say a month or two then it is truly over for now. If they are not trying to contact you to work things out after that time, then they are not thinking about you.That is the reality of the situation, so why boost their ego by chasing after them. The real test of Love is silence and No Contact then see who breaks down first but if you are female, dont let it be you. Men are better at hiding their emotions but suffer too. If you are meant to be together then let fate find a way forward ie bumping into each other etc. If you feel your heart is breaking in two then pray to The Angels for strength and ask them to help with your current distress and relationship issues. They will not interfere in your life, unless you invite them in by prayer or thought. If the Angels cannot repair the damage then ask them to give you the strength to move on.
FACT : Only 5% of married men/women, actually leave their partners and it is usually boredom that makes them stray in the first place, too many bills to pay and over commitment, so by having a fling….. this is like reading a good novel, as a temporary escape route.”Yes there a bond with you bla bla bla.” “My wife and i dont sleep together” “Never known anything like sex is with you ” If you find yourself in this situation…Protect your heart.
We have all been experienced meeting someone new and the feeling of intense attraction, but do not let your new love affair, be built on sand. The Love and Commitment words are dangerous, if mentioned too early on, in any relationship.
Give yourself a chance to test each other out and explore each others pasts and current habits and remove the rose tinted glasses and see each other, warts and all.
As a psychic reader I hear so many times how “he/she is my soul mate and the connection and attraction is so strong that we must be fated to be together.”
Tread carefully!, are the words that spring to mind and when the newness wears off, we are left with a couple who have to split up and take a break from each other, because the intensity was too stifling and too much to cope with. Scary stuff when we feel everything is moving at great speed and you have to ask yourself do I really want to be tied to this person or share that house we agreed on. What have I agreed to?
There is of course the huge matter of sexual intercourse in the early days, leaving both people feeling like they owe each other something, if not a second date. Women are the worst offenders for pushing for commitment. If a couple truly love each other then equally they should want to spend more time together and not be apart, instead of one making excuses for not turning up and the other nagging away at being let down so often. When two people love each other truly, then more commitment will be the most natural, next step, in the world, to both parties and not just one.
Push for more, too quickly and you push the other away from you. Not to mention your self respect going out the window, and you looking like a needy demanding human being.
In all my years of psychic readings in relationships can I advise you NOT to mention the L or C words too soon and the old saying “treat em mean to keep em keen” seems to have the desired effect in the respect department. It is nice to be nice too, but also good to say no! I cant make it once in a while.
Have a good cry,then go for a long walk, ring a trusted friend. Its a terrible blow to your heart but you will calm down and start to recover. You have to box clever here and if you still love your man, woman, and this is a first time, then give him/her the benefit of the doubt. If its the second time then for goodness sake clear the rotten energy that is around you and move on.
To err is Human and to forgive is sublime. To forgive more than once is giving the other person permission to do it again and get away with it. Lovers cheating on one another is not real love, it is purely abuse.
We all know what it feels like to be cheated on by a Lover. Relationships and Love, all hopes, trust and respect, flown out of the window. Give it another go??, Where do you go from here…Well you dont just sit down and take it, thats for sure. To err is human but to forgive is sublime but once and only once and I cannot reiterate on that point enough, as a counsellor and a psychic reader to many people. If its the first time then you have to soul search and think why it happened but for goodness sake do not blame yourself.An embarrassed silence usually follows along with the refusal to discuss the matter. A break and time and space is required and a chance for you to heal. The guidance is here ALLOW YOURSELF A CHANCE TO RECOVER FROM THE SHOCK AND TO HEAL, BEFORE, you enter into negotiations. Anything built on sand will quickly fall flat on itself so if your other half has had a drunken fumble or a “you know what” in the dark, then sometimes you do have to forgive their stupidity.