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My Partner has cheated

my partner has cheated

my partner has cheated

My partner has cheated on me.  What a blow to the heart, body and soul and not to mention the self esteem.  All that so called love and respect, straight out the window. The first thing not to do, is to feel sorry for them, and their big mistake.  The big mistake was, that they were found out.

Luckily I had two close friends and when I told them that my partner has cheated on me, they were so supportive. We all need a confidante and I do not mean the perpetrator.  As a victim of being cheated on myself, I remember thinking how my life was over, but once the hurt subsided and the real anger set in, it was easy to just ignore my other half and his begging for forgiveness.  If they dont beg for forgiveness then you didnt have much of a relationship anyway, or the love was one sided, and you are well shot of a deceitful partner or lover.

I could see how much it hurt my partner to be totally ignored and ejected from my life and boy did I make him suffer, just staying silent. Enough vile words were exchanged when I found out, I can assure you.  The texts and emails rolled in and I unplugged my phone from the wall.

Let them suffer with there guilt and uncertainty about the future,  if there is one left for you both.

No letters texts or emails, and I remember deliberately avoiding the places he would go, but I was lucky in that I had good friends male and female who kept me up to date with his movements, how he was looking. Very sad usually, which used to give me some pleasure.  Revenge is sweet though.

Had I used different tactics and been too forgiving, too quickly, and just taken him back into my life, he would have done the same again, but next time he would have made sure he wasnt caught.

We did eventually give it another go but as it happened I fell out of love with him, because of his inability to keep his pants up! ISex was never the same again, and I met someone truly wonderful, who I am still with, so dont sit crying and losing sleep.  Just ask yourself if you deserved to be walked over and humiliated and if the answer is no! then move on, once your heart has had a chance to heal, and it will.

When someone strays from a loving relationship I wouldnt give any second chances unless I felt I had done something to deserve “the treatment”.

Happy hunting I say..